Writing a Letter to a Deceased Loved One

Writing a letter is a powerful way to reconnect with a loved one after he or she has died. Here are some sample questions you might ask yourself as you write:

•What experiences have I been through since my loved one's death?

•What do I miss?

•What do I regret?

•What issues in our relationship remain unresolved?

•What do I appreciate?

•What have I learned about myself, my loved one, and my relationship?

•What do I want to carry on?

Ask yourself the following questions after you have written your letter:

•Was I open and honest?

•Did I express my love and appreciation?

•Did I address unresolved issues in our relationship?

•Do I still feel regrets?

•Are any resentments still bothering me?

•Is anything left unsaid?

•Do I feel forgiveness? Do I feel more understanding?

From the article, Love After Death.